Dating nice guy but not attracted
If we’re being honest here, I was one of these girls at one point.From the ages of 17 to 20, I was only interested in white guys.I love him for who he is, not for the colour of his skin. if you liked this post, you might like this post on awkward phases I had as a Toronto kid.And I definitely don’t see him as a white guy – I just see him as my guy. So I want you to know that I am putting this out there to help and inspire everyone to have more dating success, to point fingers. ” and pretty much any sentence that begins with ‘why didn’t you,’ it’s like nails on a chalkboard.I can tell you from a guy’s perspective that when a woman says things like: “Why didn’t you call? Those kinds of statements will immediately put a guy on the defensive rather than motivating him to change and he’ll probably withdraw emotionally as a result… I would say the core reason of this is that it attacks a guy’s sense of freedom and feeling of acknowledgment. Well, when a woman starts down this chain of “Why didn’t you…” it feels to a guy as if she isn’t noticing all of the other things he is doing for a relationship. It’s perfectly normal and healthy to want a relationship with all the good qualities: connection, chemistry, understanding, intimacy, attentiveness and on and on.You can be as picky as you want, and I discourage you from ever just settling.
But neediness is not gender-specific – guys make the mistake of being “needy” too!
I also went to Hong Kong last summer, and it really opened my eyes to my Chinese heritage.
There is a difference between having yellow fever and simply being attracted to the physical features of people from a certain culture.
As my boyfriend (who is a white male himself) puts it, “Every white guy wants to have sex with an Asian girl, but not all of them want to date one.” We all know the popular slang term “yellow fever”, which describes a (usually) white male who fetishizes Asian women.
On the other hand, there are also plenty of Asian women who fetishize white guys just as much.