Dating someone gential herpes
Despite wishing there was more open dialogue about STIs and wanting people to realize how common it is to have herpes, I guess I'm not ready to divulge that piece of personal information.
It's not that I'm ashamed about it now, but I am not comfortable with the idea of people knowing that about me? My mom helped me a lot when I was first diagnosed, because I was freaking out and didn't know who to confide in.
I actually blurted it out to one guy as the clothes were coming off and he told me we could talk about it later.
(Which we did, right after sex.) He was either very brave, or I'm just very seductive.
He could see that it was a difficult thing for me to admit, and I think he was a little shocked but he hid it well. He just said, "It's OK, we'll figure something out." He asked some general questions, but they were things I would've asked too; he just wanted to be informed.
It was exactly the reaction I'd hoped for — he wasn't judgmental, and he didn't get scared away or have second thoughts about pursuing a relationship with me.
I think I'd be just as upfront with any potential future partners because if the situation were flipped I'd want to know.
Has there been any long-term impact on your health? I can't see how it possibly could, unless I was giving birth and had an outbreak and had to have a C-section.They've gone from mid-grade to low-grade, so I haven't had to have them removed, but six-monthly colposcopies are rather awful. ) I don't entirely understand how I test negative for the virus but still have the lesions, but I do.How and when do you disclose to partner/s that you have an STI?Woman C: Fortunately, they were universally understanding.I started seeing men who were a little closer to my circle of friends, so that made the trust thing easier. I never made an announcement, but sometimes it comes up in conversation.